You wouldn’t choose a Spades partner thats known to renege. Spades is a rite of passage. It’s the culturally interwoven card game that has lived through three or more generations. If you’re not familiar, let me explain. It’s a four-player game with two teams. All cards
Having vision beyond what the eyes can see, what the brain remembers, or what the heart can make sense of can feel isolating. In a world built to repeat history in loops of comfort and control, holding a vision that breaks that cycle can make you feel misplaced, as if
You’ve decided to be a loser. Why? It’s simple: your decision-making skills are trash. Instead of being offended, let’s dig deeper. Why are you living a life that is incongruent (misaligned, if you will) with your wildest dreams? Maybe your dreams are a bit too wild and
Have you seen the Women’s World Athletics Championship 4x100 relay race anchored by Sha’Carri Richardson?? I’ve watched it at least twenty times! The race was held in Tokyo on Sunday, September 21, 2025. All I could think about was how much training they must endure to make
If you know me, or anything about my journey, you might think I’m this naturally brave person. The truth is, I’ve been scared as hell most of the time. And in all honesty, it’s because I’ve been committed to doing what I want, and I’ve
Sometimes the thoughts we think are the ones we spill out and the ones we don’t even want to have. Today, I’m noticing mine, and learning to just watch them instead. As I write this newsletter, I’m sitting in the food court of the Atlanta Chinese Mall
The world seems heavier this week. And I think sometimes we need art to convey our thoughts. So I wrote today’s newsletter with one of my favorite art forms- poetry- in hopes to deposit more good into your bank. When the world is heavy Don’t try to be
The Power of your Anti-Vision. → Survival mode won’t build your future, you need something sharper. I am that I am. I am a behavioral change facilitator. I live my life as evidence. I write to show the connection between input and output. I create an excuse-free mindset by radically
There are people who survived monsters in their own homes and still built extraordinary lives. And there are people who were spoon fed every advantage, yet destroyed themselves. Your past alone does not decide your future. But here’s the truth, your past is living in your body right now.
It’s Monday morning, and today’s the day you begin your transformation. You laid out your workout clothes. Your meals are prepped. You’ve got Earn Your Leisure in your earbuds. The checklist is clean. The path is clear. You’re all set to win this go-round. What you
Freedom isn’t about escape. It’s about building brick by brick. So, why are you in a rush to live your dream life? You have been breathing for what, 2, 3, 4, 5+ decades not living your dream life, so why do you suddenly feel this urgency to skip
This is my bEARTHday week—my actual new year! I found a small moment on my bEARTH anniversary to reflect on the last year and what I’m looking forward to in the next. I realized how people, things, habits, thoughts—even some of my needs and wants—were just
Declutter Your Environment Immediately This past week I started decluttering, and I went through some old mail—30% of it was unopened. Tell me why I found a check. Yes, a check. And guess what? It was expired, because there’s a 90-day window to cash it. This check was
You’ve been wearing a borrowed identity, molded by expectations, squeezing your truth into Cinderella’s glass slipper never designed for your feet. It’s time to slip off the misfit slipper and step fully into your destiny. Remember the movie The Matrix and the concept of the red pill
Motivation is the most picked-up and dropped-off item on social media. We scroll, we save, we swear this is the one…until life throws us the first inconvenience. Then it’s back to default settings. “You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level
What if the way forward requires a little arson? There comes a point where preserving peace costs too much. Or as Steve Harvey put it, “I'm not afraid to burn a bridge. I got a match.” Not sure where you’re reading this—whether you’re in Tokyo,
We are no longer going to war with our negative internal thoughts. Think of this week’s newsletter as your waving white flag of surrender. It’s the moment you stop fighting yourself. Not a sign of quitting, more of a peace treaty. You’ve waged war with your negative
Life is shaped by what you say yes to. But let's be real: You are your biggest hater. Yes—you. You've been given a vision. You know your natural gifts. You've even invested in building skills to support them. And yet... You delay. You
Week 5, Day 36 of my own 100-day challenge. A challenge I created to habit stack my way into a better life. The same challenge I’ve been using this newsletter to convince you to start—because I believed it could transform your life like it was transforming mine. And
Own the Challenge: Start with Your Lowest-Hanging Fruit Over the past few weeks you’ve embarked on a transformative journey: * Identified your Anti-Vision: Spelling out what you don’t want in your life. * Challenged Limiting Beliefs: Reframing your mindset to align with your true potential. * Clarified our Desires: Understanding what
Before Moving On. “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.” – Alice Walker Your belief system is built on years of fear, blame, shame, past failures, and other people’s opinions. You’ve yet to condition your own mind and therefore
You can read it online here. You are exactly where your past actions, beliefs, thoughts, and environment have led you; whether that’s a good thing or not is something only you know. To take accountability for your past decisions, you have to begin with self-reflection. If you despise where
Start here if you want to stop spending your life waiting to begin. Let me guess You’re trapped at the starting line, you know there’s a step to take, but you’re stuck. Stuck deciding, thinking of every possible reason to not start. Doing every single thing except
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